Wedding Preparations

The parish and staff of St. Uriel’s joyfully welcome you as you prepare for the Sacrament of Matrimony. The love you have privately come to realize and share will now be made public through a sacred sacrament. We join in the support of family and friends as you undertake a new way of life.

 

The purpose of this guide is to provide you with insights and information which will help to make your wedding day a happy and holy event. It details the various steps that are important as you prepare for the Sacrament of Matrimony. One of the parish priests will assist you in the preparatory steps which will lead to your wedding day.


We assure you of our continued support, help and prayers. If we may be of further assistance, please do not hesitate to contact us. Before any arrangements can be made, please contact the parish office at 732-449-6173 to reserve a date for your wedding.

Weddings in Lent:

Lent is a penitential season and it is normative not to schedule weddings in Lent.  There may be some extreme reason for a wedding in Lent, but that must to be cleared by the Rector.  Extreme examples include military deployment, moving out of State, etc.  "We have the hall reserved" does not count as an extreme situation.

Title: "Canon in D major" 

Album: Pachelbel - Classical

Part 1. Confirming the Parish for Your Wedding

 

 

Those desiring to be married at St. Uriel’s, one member of the couple will need to be an active member in the life of the parish.  You will first need to contact the Rector prior to arranging any of the other details of your wedding. The initial meeting will enable the priest to outline the requirements of marriage preparations, as well as specific details for weddings at the St. Uriel’s.  This meeting will also allow you to clarify any questions you may have regarding the requirements.

 

IF YOU WERE RAISED IN THE PARISH AND HAVE MOVED AWAY, you may be married at St. Uriel’s provided you are active in a parish where you now reside.  A written permission of the Pastor of the parish which you now attend.

 

You may schedule your wedding on Friday evening and Saturdays. If you wish a weekday wedding, you may arrange for this with the Rector.

 

If one member of the couple has been divorced, the proper annulment process will have to be implemented in according with the procedures of the Diocese of New Jersey.

 

NOTE: NO weddings will be scheduled until the couple has met with the Rector.

Part 2. Preparing for Your Marriage

 

In accord with the marriage preparation policy established by the parish, you will need to complete the following:

 

  • Preliminary assessment of readiness for marriage.

  • Participation in at least one of the recommended marriage preparation programs, i.e. Pre-Cana, Engaged Encounter, etc.

  • Completion of the necessary forms for our Church records, including copies of baptismal certificates.

  • Plan the ceremony with the assistance of a priest in the parish, Director of Music Ministries, and Altar Guild Director.

 

Wedding coordinators are nice, but their work stops outside of the Church doors.  The Rector and his staff are the parish wedding coordinators.

Part 3. Planning the Liturgy

 

Your wedding celebration must follow the directives of the Church; however, you will have some options within those directives from which you my personalize your wedding celebration. In approaching the planning sessions, please be mindful of the following:

 

If both bride and groom are practicing Anglicans, you are encouraged to celebrate your wedding within the context of the Eucharist. If either the groom or bride is not of the Christian faith, it may be more appropriate to celebrate the wedding ceremony within a service of Scripture readings and Prayers which would enable all of your guests to fully participate.

Readings for the Nuptial  Mass: Lectionary (Readings)

 

The Church of St. Uriel the Archangel can seat comfortably 225 in the Church.

Click on "Music Options" for some suggestions for wedding music at St. Uriel's.

Part 4. The Particulars of the Liturgy

 

 

MUSIC:

 

All music for your wedding will be arranged at a meeting with the Director of Music of St. Uriel's.  You may contact the Parish Office at 732-449-6173 to set up a meeting in order to discuss musical selections for your wedding along with the compensation for the ministers of music.

 

Only music integral to the wedding liturgy and appropriate to the sacred ceremony is permitted.  Frank Sinatra singing, "I Did It My Way" will not work.  The black box to the left with the link, "Music Options" will take you to a website where you can listen to some wedding music which is appropriate for a wedding liturgy at St. Uriel's.

 

St. Uriel's organist is employed by the parish and will be the organist at all weddings.  The organist will suggest the use of cantors and various instrumentalists for your consideration.  In the event that the family wishes to have a personal friend who is a musician and wishes to play at the wedding, this is acceptable.  However, the guest musician must meet with the approval of the Rector.  

 

All fees and stipends for musicians and the Church are to be paid by the time of the rehearsl with the Director of Music Ministries.

 

PHOTOGRAPHY:

  • Photographers are never allowed to enter the sanctuary, or pulpit.

  • Flashes and camera lights are not to be used during the liturgy.

  • Videographers are requested to remain stationary during the liturgy. 

  • With permission, posed photographs may be taken for up to thirty minutes following the liturgy.  Weather permitting, posed pictures may be taken outside on the parish grounds.

 

 

FLOWERS AND DECORATIONS:

  • NO candlebra’s in the sanctuary.

  • All flower adornments will be done by the Flower Guild of St. Uriel's.  ONLY fresh cut flowers and live plants are permitted, and these should not be removed following the ceremony.

  • Runners are not permitted.  They tend to get tangled and people can trip on them.  They are a safety hazard.

  • The priest conducting the wedding will also conduct the rehearsal.  The priest assumes responsibility for directing the procession of the wedding party.

 

Decorum:

Food and drink of any type are not allowed in the parish.  For insurance reasons, we cannot allow rice to be used.

 

Please consider appropriate dress for rehearsal AND wedding.  This is a CHURCH – modesty is required. 

Video: Matrimony

 

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